M-15 - Are you afraid of dying?

[Madame Malfoy]

I was having a discussion with my fiancee about death and he said the he is terrified of dying because he does not have any reason to believe that anything happens after we die.

I, on the other hand have never been afraid of dying. I don't want to yet but, I am definatly not afraid at all. I have never really thought much about this, it is just that I feel I know that something happens after we die. I am not religious or anything either.

On the other hand I am petrified of someone close to me dying but I suppose that is probably inevitable. Also it is a bit selfish, because I am sure they will be going somewhere wonderful, I just don't want them to leave me.

What are your thought on this? Do you need proof of an afterlife to believe? or is faith in it enough?

[Schlubalybub]

no. i am terrified of the thoght of it.

[Azimuth]

Yeah, I'd need proof of an afterlife. But I know that it isn't true. No, I'm not scared of dying because it's not exactly like I'd know that I was dead. I would just cease to exist. The fact that there isn't an afterlife doesn't really matter to me (although of course I'd love to think that there was)

[PhoenixUK]

I believe in an afterlife, but I'm still not happy about death. In the end, what happens when you die is an uncertainty, and I don't think that humans particularily like what is out of their control. I guess you've just got to make a decision on whether you believe that this life is all there is or whether there's something more, and then live your life that way.

[Morgoth]

I don't believe in afterlife and frankly I wouldn't want one. Death is fine for me. The fear of death has been used far too much by religion to bring about followers as though you have something to answer for at the end of this existence. Just live your life, not the one others want to fashion for you.

[haycheng]

believe in afterlife as I am a christisan. I can say I do not afraid of dying at this very moment as long as it is a fast and painless one. However, I do not know that if i would say the same when I am actually dying.

[thethirdman]

I'm not afraid to die. I just want to live fully before it comes. I believe in both after life and reincarnation. I think you keep coming back until you get things right and then your soul goes to the afterlife. As for heaven and hell, I'm still deciding what I believe about that

[leenielou]

When I was younger I was so terrified of dying that my mother sent me to the doctors to be treated for depression. It got to the point where I would lay awake crying in case someone had filled the room with chlorine gas. I hated the feeling that everything was coming to an eventual end, and for a while adopted the policy that if I was going to die, I may as well not be living anyway.

But now that I am...well, now, I'm not afraid of it in theory. As a Christian I believe that anything after it will be excellent. The only thing that I slightly fear is the when and how. I don't want to die right now; I want to experience more of life. I want to be able to say that I have lived a full life and fulfilled whatever I have wanted to. And I don't want to die painfully.

I guess that everyone can say that though. It's such a pity that so few get to achieve it.

[PhoenixUK]

I guess, as people have been saying, it's how you die that worries a lot of people. I've seen people die peacefully. I've also seen my aunt die in pain and fustration of a brain tumour. For the last 2 months she was basically just a body: she couldn't talk, feed herself or move from her bed. No way do I want to die like that, and it's something that worries me.

Ideally, if I was going to die, I would like it to be from some sort of quick and not too painful illness, so that I had time to say my good byes and settle a lot of stuff that I still want to do. But, in the end, there's no way of telling how you're going to die. I could die on the bus tomorrow, or asleep tonight. So I might as well live now and worry later.

[JofpGallagher]

I'm not that afraid of dying that I think of it every moment in my life. However, I have thought about it because it's impossible not to think in such big event (Unrepeatable) of our lives. This may sound shocking, but I have no intentions to die healthy. In my opinion that would be sad and a waste.

As PhoenixUK said, many of us want a quick death, and maybe one that comes unexpectebly like maybe a heart attack while sleeping? I want a quick and no very painful death. That's one of the reasons that I don't take too much care about myself. I mean, I see all that people that are healthy fanatics, and I ask to myself "Who are you misleading?" You, like me, are going to die. So why to bother to die with such a perfect muscles? Perfect liver? Perfect Kidneys? To give them to the worms for a great feast? Well, I will not give that pleasure to the worms.

I am not saying that let's have a crazy life full of excesses. NO. I take some minimal precautions towards my health, but if I want to eat that chocolate cake, heck yeah, I will eat it without any remorse. Now, I have to admit that people that constantly say to me "That will kill you", if I drink a CocaCola or smoke a cigarette, annoy me. Yeah sure, because you will live forever is my answer.

The point is that excesses is bad, but extremes touch themselves. My point is that I only take minimal health precautions without reaching a big extreme, and I am doing that because I want a quick and not too much painful death. I belive, and this is my very own opinion, that if someone heavily take care of his/her health (Which I don't think it's worng at all), that person is choosing a long and painful death. If his/her heart is in good shape, his/her lungs are OK, his/her organs are fine, well I think that he/she will have to die somehow!...If someone's organs are so OK, the most probably death that person will find is a cancer, and with my mother dying battling for 5 long years with cancer was enough cancer for me. I will die, very likely, of a heart attack, and with my organs very wore out. I just hope it will quick!

[Virtuousdream]

I'm afraid of dying. It's not the process, and not really what's after it, as I don't believe there is anything after death, but it's dying alone and scared. I'm petrified of facing it alone.

I don't like talking about it much, mainly because I'm ignoring the problem and as i'm young, I hopefully wont deal with it. A year back I was ready to end things myself but now I know that no matter what I do to myself or how depressed I get I wont do it because of this fear and leaving my mum. I know I'm going off on a tangent but to not be afraid of death would be for me to die in my sleep oblivious to what was happening, or dying with a loved one with me, to keep me company to the end. Sounds kinda stupid I guess...

[leenielou]

It's not stupid, just the portrayal of how we all wish it would end. It never seems to happen that way.

[LadySummer]

I'm not so much afraid of myself dying, as i am of people that i love dying. I'd go loopy if it was my child, my husband or my mother (just to name a few). As for me dying...well, people have been doing it for millions of years, lol...i guess we all have to do it at some time. I'm just hoping it doesnt happen so quick that i'm not able to say good bye to those that i love (unless i;m like 90....i guess a quick heart attack in my sleep would be ok in that case). Just in case i go too quick, i always make it a point to tell my loved ones how much i love them on a daily basis, and never leave or hang up a phone angry.....you never know if that may be the last time you talk to someone.

[Benzo]

I'll go with LadySummer, Helhorn and Phonix UK.

I accept the fact that I will die and that there might be nothing after. What I hate is not the way I will die, it is the absoence of control of when it will happen.

There are two things that bother me:
1- Will I have time to enjoy a long life? I enjoy my life but I want it long.
2- Will life follow the natural cycle of life? That is; I die after my parents and my children die after me, that would be fair but it is not always like that...

I try to have a healthy life so I can enjoy being old and then when I would want to finish with it, I will decide when and how. That would be great.

[hermy_weasley2]

I'm not afraid of my own death ,because I'm a Christian. I'm afraind of the deaths of the people I love even though I've experienced a lot of those in the past. However, dying before them brings up the point that they are alive and moarning my death which I know will hurt them more than their own death. So, either way, death is a very bad thing.

[triki1988]

I'm not afraid of dying. But let's face it, the thought that you can drop dead any second isn't exactly enlightening.

I'm not scared of dying because, according to my religion, I will go to a better place (considering anything is better than our world) and enjoy happiness for all of eternety.
If that wasn't the case, I don't think I'd still be afraid of death anyways.

To die the only thing you have to do is live. Being born. You sign your own death sentence the minute you are conceived and come into this world. No one can cheat death, it's a natural thing.

Why be so scared of it?

[Adalbert Waffling]

I am petrified. I know my religion, but there's just the little fact that it is intense instinct to stay alive. It is the root of us. No matter what we say, or believe, you are afraid of dying. It's just how it is, unless you're some pyscho. It may be great about where you're going, but there's no way you can say you aren't afraid of death. We see it as an adventure, but deep down, no one wants to die.

[mina]

I am not afraid simply because if I did I would know that there really wouldn't be much I could do to stop it, it has to happen sometime. I'm more concerned with getting as much out of my life as possible.

[snitchseeker86]

I'm not afraid of dying... I'm jsut afraid of the pain.

[ANDTORR]

A year ago I proabobly would have said that I am petrified of dying. Now though, after the hardest year of my life, including being suicidal for awhile, I think that I am no longer afraid of death, for myself. I am also not afraid of most of my family dying, because they are christians, and therefore I know that when they die, they will be in heaven with god, on the other hand I am afraid of losing any of my non christian friends before I get the chance to show them the joy of Christ. However I dont want to die for several reasons, 1 I know that it would cause great pain for many of those whom I love, and 2 there may still be a purpose for me to fulfill, like helping a friend, or a stranger even. Also when I say I am not afraid of my family dying, I realy dont want them to die (even though I may think so sometimes).

Anyway thats my bit.

[Kelm]

Well I for one am also terrified of death but have no problem doing 55mph on a quad, 160mph on a bike, 220mph in a car, or anything for that matter.

[Kelm]

Except Sharks, Nope.. Don't think I'll EVER set FOOT in Salt Water.

[Kelm]

Do you people not read Harry Potter? Tut tut..

"To the well organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." - Dumbledore

[ANDTORR]

Actualy no, I dont read Harry Potter, never even finished the first chapter of the first book, but you tripple posted, so just some advice but please delete the two posts after your first and combine them into 1, that way you save the mods some trouble, make yourself look better, and it doesnt take up as much space in the thread.

Sorry for the OT post all.

[eVaNeScEnCe]

Up until a few months ago, I spent a great portion of my time contemplating a lot about death. Even though I'd been aware of the concept of death my entire life, I didn't fully come to understand the uncertainty behind it and what it entailed until about a year ago. It just seemed to hit me at one point: one day, I will cease to exist and my consciousness will be lost forever. It was hard to imagine myself losing all perception of the world around me and having it engulfed in total darkness or who knows what else. To be truthful, I think reading Hamlet's soliloquy brought about this advent of fear. I remember an overwhelming anxiety kept building inside me every time I'd think about it. I don't think about it as much anymore, but I still wonder...
Like most humans, I tend to cling on to this notion of an afterlife to alleviate the fear of death. PhoenixUK is right in stating that humans don't generally like things that are out of their control, or at least we don't like to think about them. As for now, I will continue to believe in an afterlife, simply because I choose to. Funny thing is, I'm not sure I even believe in God, let alone a heaven. But I guess it all goes back to that fear factor. Fear can truly be a powerful enemy.

[Kaonashi]

I used to think about it a lot. Now I just want to enjoy the time I have, to do the things I've always wanted to do, and to live life to its fullest. It's a waste when you'reold and you think back and say "Oh, i wish I had went here or done this." I want to look back on my life and know that I have no regrets about doing things.

I don't think it's actually death that people fear....its the fact that we have no control over when we're going to go. You can go outside and get shot by a crazy person. Or get hit by a bus. Or find out that you have some sort of incurable disease. You can worry to death about things like that if you let yourself....and then regret all the time you spent worrying about it when you could be doing something else....like living.

[HannahStarr]

I'm not afraid to die either. I believe in heaven, and I know that's where I'll go when I die. I'm not scared.

[Cheeseheads]

I believe in heaven, but I when I start thinking about death, I get very scared.
eVaNeScEnCe said it well earlier. No1 likes the thought thats you cease to exist, you disappear from the face of the Earth never to be seen or heard of again. I live a good life, but even if I have no regrets when I die, how can you be happy about dying? Of course I belive in heaven but there is always the doubt that there could be nothing afterwards. When I hear reports of near death people coming back to life (like youre clinically dead but come back) and they say things like they saw a big white light and they went towards it, it comforts me. It may be that these people r just inventing a story for money, but not all of them do this. The best is to belive in religion and try not to dwell on death

[Brenna]

I'm not afriad of dying but I am afraid of how I will die. I'm afraid that when I go, it will be painful, or that I'll have no one with me. Dying doesn't really scare me, because if there's no proof of an afterlife, what's the point of life at all? Not that I'm suicidal, I love life, I just have no real fear of death. On the other hand, if I was faced with death, I may change my mind.

[Jill]

I am not affraid of dying and would welcome death with open arms now if it came.

[Emma]

I have experianced people's death. It isn't all that tragic. I see it as a life lesson that we all must experiance. And then of course there is the topic of reincarnation, which is a totally different subject.

[Mireille]

To be honest, the thought does scare me. Of course I think others dying scares me more. Death is so...final. That to me is probably the biggest thing I worry about. I don't like things I can't control and death is something that you can and can't control. I mean, I could die in a car accident and it wouldn't be my fault, therefore making it out of my control. I don't know, the idea itself just bothers me.

[Cheetah]

I've heard this great line in a song, "I'm not scared of dying, I just don't want to." That's how it is for me. Not scared, but could very well live without it until I'm dont with writng down some things.

[deathwish]

i am not afraid to die, my belief is once you are dead your dead it is like sleeping forever. Of course when i am about to die as in someone is shooting me or if i had a disease i could not pronounce, then i would be afraid. Most people i think are not afraid to die unless given a reason to fear death such as to be threatened

[DrummerboyDT]

I'm not afraid of dying, but I don't want people to mourn over me neither because I had a good life and I'm lucky to have made it this far.

[Kevin]

I'm not afraid of death. Its just another adventure for us. I believe the soul carrys on after you die.

The thing i'm most scared of is people close to me dying. Like with my grandmother who died when i was only 11 years old.

[thinkpink38]

JofpGallagher, i'm sorry about your mother. Thats a different way to look at things I suppose.

As for me, I'd be lieng if I say im not afraid of death. And, yes I do believe in the afterlife. I never really thought about death and the whole process until my grandfather died. It was kind of a wake up call that, yes, I am human, and no, im not immortal, so I will die some day. Although I dont like the thought of dieng, I wouldnt like the thought of living forever either, basically I want to live life now, you never know later might be too late.....this topic brings up some quotes, (and reminds me of Tuck Everlasting)

"A brief candle; both ends burning
An endless mile; a bus wheel turning
A friend to share the lonesome times
A handshake and a sip of wine
So say it loud and let it ring
We are all a part of everything
The future, present and the past
Fly on proud bird
You're free at last"

"The irony of man’s condition is that the deepest need is to be free of the anxiety of death and annihilation; but it is life itself which awakens it, and so we must shrink from being fully alive."

"Religion is a wizard, a sibyl . . .
She faces the wreck of worlds, and prophesies restoration.
She faces a sky blood-red with sunset colours that deepen into darkness, and prophesies dawn.
She faces death, and prophesies life."




Beauty comes in different shapes and sizes, life is a beauty, a beauty that everyone must sense and experience. Death is a mystery, and I geuss there's nothing wrong with that.Although I am afraid of dieng as long as I have lived it's not really fear anymore, probably just curiosty. Honestly, I think I have learned to accept that we all die, and that death wouldnt be all that frightning after all. (ohhh, hey that rhymes!)

[HollywoodBob]

Personally I don't fear death, for death is merely a transition, from one form to another (I believe in reincarnation).

There's a childrens book that I read once, it's title has slipped my mind at the moment, it's about a family that is immortal, but there's a passage in it where the father tells a girl contemplating joining them that she shouldn't fear death, but that the real thing to fear is the unlived life.

There's also a Norse proverb that fits this discussion, "The All father wove the skein of your life long ago, go and hide in a hole if you like, you won't life any longer." (I think that's it) Its their way of saying, that there's no point to fearing death, for it will come eventually no matter what you do to prevent it.

So you shouldn't be afraid of death. Live a good life and enjoy yourself, be a good person, and fear not the unknown. No matter what you faith, it's always good to hedge your bets, so be nice to people, just in case. If the Christians are right you'll go to heaven, if the buddhists are right you won't end up a cockroach. :-D

Peace and enlightenment to all.

-HollywoodBob

[Cat]

I don't have any mapped out idea of what happens when we die, but, on the other hand, I see no reason to disbelieve some of the people who claim to have seen things that suggests we don't just switch off and begin the process of decay after the body stops. Ghosts, for instance. It's all one big tapestry of unknown things.

I'm afraid of losing people, wherever they go I want to be with them, but I'm not really afraid of dying. I'd just feel a bit guilty. If I feel anything at all after die, I mean. I know how I'd feel if I lost some people, so how would they feel if they lost me? I wouldn't wish loss on anybody, just as I wouldn't wish death. So... I'd rather not die. But if it happens, it happens. You can't always put it off.

I used to be terrified at the idea of dying. I don't know what changed. I used to think of it as darkness, now I think of brightness. Just a moment, maybe, before you stop completely... brightness. That's not an atheist/religious thing because an atheist wouldn't even think of darkness. Nothingness is not darkness. It's nothing.

[leenielou]

The only thing that I have come to realise truly terrifies me about death is that it may happen to someone I love, when I never let them know just how much I love them before they die.

For instance, if I stepped out of the house angry with my parents after an argument, only to find later that they had died in some sort of accident when I had never apologised or told them that I love them.

It's the same with friends as well. It's so hard to know what is going to happen in daily life. I guess this feeling has been reinforced since a friend died in September, but it really is the only thing to scare me so much that I could lay awake thinking about it.

[DrummerboyDT]

The only thing that I have come to realise truly terrifies me about death is that it may happen to someone I love, when I never let them know just how much I love them before they die.


I hear ya. If my grandpa went, I don't know what I'd do. He's so good to so many people and still works hard to help people. I have had so many stange deaths in my family. We used to have family get-togethers all the time. Now, I hardly have any family left. My grandpa is still alive, but all 12 of his siblings have passed on. My aunt died at 29 and 6 months later my other aunt died at 40. My other aunt has cancer. Then my uncle had a heart attack and stroke due to Diabetes and my other uncle died. My grandpa had a heart attack and drove himself to the hospital and my other grandpa died. So I've been to many of funerals. I realized that death is just a part of life, but I make sure I remember to let them know I love them.

[Weatherby]

I'm not afraid of dying. I'm more worried about the reason I'm going to die. Isn't that why we have things like insurance? We can't prevent dying but we'd like to die less painfully and to secure that we're not murdered if need be.

I'm more scared of those I love dying and leaving me behind.

[Benzo]

I'm more scared of those I love dying and leaving me behind.
Oh yes, I think it is worse for the survivors than the dead one. No matter what hapens after life, those who reamins are in pain.

I just hope things will go in the right order. I bury my parents and my children bury me. I mean I can't see anything worse than losing a child.

[Nick]

I don't spend all that much time thinking about death .. too busy living, if you get my meaning. Don't like the Big questions, like "is there an afterlife" or "is there a god" or best of all "what is the meaning of life". Don't like them because they're unanswerable and thinking about them really does waste a lot of time that I could spend doing more enjoyable things.

[iluvhp1993]

i think that there HAS to be something after death. i mean, you die, you are reborn, you don't remember your past life, or anything. i don't think that happens. i don't really believe in heaven, but i think that there is something after you die. like, ghosts or something. no, i'm not scared of dying.

[Desdemona]

when i die, i die. im not scared of it as such, but i'd be a bit annoyed (well no, i wouldnt because i'd be dead... but you know what i mean) if i died and hadn't got anything done that i'd really wanted to do... i would be pretty pissed if i died within the next two and a half years for example, because i am having a brilliant time being as argumentative as possible towards my supervisors in uni and i wouldnt like to die with them thinking they still had the upper hand when it was blatantly evident that a bruise can "blossom" and whichever autor wrote that wasnt off his rocker at all with imagery, but was simply quoting a common phrase that some otherworldly english supervisor dude hadnt heard because he had spent too much time buried in literature from the beginning of time.

there. i am afraid of losing an argument pre-death. but not of death itself, seeing as st. peter is going to be nice to me and let me into heaven purely on the fact that i go to peterhouse college, and have to walk under his dudesome keys every morning, and i have a lot of respect for his keys, theyre very pretty.

[Doggy]

I'm scared of dying. I'm a Christian, and I believe in Heaven, and I'm sure that I'll meet God after I die and all. Only.. I'm so scared that God won't want me, or that I won't have been good enough on Earth to deserve Heaven.

Truthfully, I'm freaked out about it..

[star22]

I am sort of afraid of death. This is because I have a fear of the unknown. I do not know what will happen after I die. that scares me. I like being in control and knowing what is happening. The idea that I am not and I don't scares me a little.

[*Eternal*Doll*]

I was having a discussion with my fiancee about death and he said the he is terrified of dying because he does not have any reason to believe that anything happens after we die.

I, on the other hand have never been afraid of dying. I don't want to yet but, I am definatly not afraid at all. I have never really thought much about this, it is just that I feel I know that something happens after we die. I am not religious or anything either.

On the other hand I am petrified of someone close to me dying but I suppose that is probably inevitable. Also it is a bit selfish, because I am sure they will be going somewhere wonderful, I just don't want them to leave me.

What are your thought on this? Do you need proof of an afterlife to believe? or is faith in it enough?
No, I'm not afraid of dying at all. I'm not sure if Heaven exists, or if anything happens to you afterwards but I can wait and see. I'm not afraid of what happens after you're dead just the dying part -wince- pain.
I don't need proof of an after life to believe in anything. I would be fine if there was no afterlife at all, because if we went into oblivion we wouldn't know so there wouldn't be any sort of disappointment. -shrugs-

[Frost Wyrm87]

The only fear i have of dying is if its in some horrible way, like when i can see it coming, but you know what they say....when you gotta go, you gotta go

[lily1993]

I'm a Muslim, yet I have different veiw on what will happen when I die. My grandmother (a very wise old woman, she is) told me that when we die we will be punished for all the sins we did when we were above the age of thirteen. After we have been punished, we are sent to Heaven.
I don't know if I believe this or not. I just think that to die would just be an awfully big adventure, as in being alive.

[complicated]

I am not afraid of dying but i'm just scared of the pain if i get murdered. I know a friend in my homeroom who is afraid of dying. I don't know why though, i guess i never asked.
About the afterlife, I don't know do I believe it or not. Sometimes i think to myself, what if there would be no afterlife? that means i have to sleep in my grave forever and get mutant. But what if there is an afterlife? what will i be doing? which family will i be in? what will i look like? will i look the same or will i look different..etc. And if we do have an afterlife then that means we are just getting the same people over and over again, does it make sense to you?? But anyways the main thing is that i'm not afraid of dying, i'm only afraid of the pain i have to go through if i get murdered. *touch wood*

[Charmed]

I used to be afraid of death. But now I'm not. Death is the only certain thing we have in our lives. It is eventual and there is nothing we can do to stop it.

[Amadeus]

I am not really afraid of dying... Partially because I am religious (Christian), and because everyone dies at some point in their life - it's just matter of when. As long as I don't die a painful death... I am okay with it. I am afraid of being forgotten and rotting away after death.. I want to do something meaningful during my life time for which I can be remembered for...

[Guardian Angel]

I am not sure if I'm afarid of dying... myself... but I am afraid to lose my loved ones. Only a couple of days ago I had a rant in my diary about that... Thoughts about my parents dying keeps haunting me... and I realize there's nothing I'll be able to do when that day... comes...

[complicated]

Thoughts about my parents dying keeps haunting me...

I know how you feel on that, i once had thoughts about my mum dying cause she was really sick one day and i was thinking what if mum dies, who will gonna take care of me? and all these stuff going in my head. But really it didn't happen cause they are just thoughts, thought will always be thoughts they won't come true.

[Amadeus]

I am not sure if I'm afarid of dying... myself... but I am afraid to lose my loved ones. Only a couple of days ago I had a rant in my diary about that... Thoughts about my parents dying keeps haunting me... and I realize there's nothing I'll be able to do when that day... comes...
When I was little, I used to have nightmares of my mom dying every single night for about 4~5 years. I used to always run to my parents' bedroom to make sure she was alright, and sleep on their bed for remainder of the night. Back then and still now, I am too, afraid of losing my parents.

[LumosSoleil]

When it happens it happens. Technically I'm not at all afraid of death. It only comes natural to be scared the moment it happens. But after that i'm pretty sure peace takes over. We were here on this earth for a reason and when it's time for us to go, then we shouldn't have to be afraid.

[Picko]

I'd say I'm scared of death, to be honest I think anyone who say they are not are lying. It's an unknown and nobody in their right mind can say they know better, which explains why even the most highly religious people have greeved over loved ones - otherwise why would they when it's all meant to be truly wonderful and peaceful?

[Liselle]

I'm absolutely terrified by it, and I agree Picko, anyone who says otherwise must be lying!!

[hesdead-dealwithit]

It's why there is the concept of the "deathbead conversion": no one has an inkling of what's coming next, and converting can't in any way hurt you, so why not? Everyone's scared of death.

[Tiberius]

The way I see it, all of existence can be placed into three categories:

Before you're born.

While you're alive.

After you're dead.

Now, if you think about it, two of those categories are exactly the same as far as you're concerned. The first and last. In neither of them do you exist. And already, there has been one of those categories, the before you were born one. So why should death be any different? I mean, as far as you're concerned, it's going to be the same as before you were born. And before you were born, you didn't much care that you didn't exist. Why should death be any different?

[Tane]

hesdead-dealwithit]It's why there is the concept of the "deathbead conversion": no one has an inkling of what's coming next, and converting can't in any way hurt you, so why not? Everyone's scared of death.

To right everyone is scared of death. Entering any unknown situation at risk of losing so much beauty, care and kindness is a very scary concept indeed. I am afraid of the unknown and hence afraid of death.

[totalmuggle]

just read the end of my post.im not scared. but 2 or my bff died of all(cancer of the blood) and the pain that they had till death is what scares me. lung ytranplants arent painless.(ive heared it feels like a truck hit you)

[Legolas]

I amit that Im somewhat arrogant in my views on this. I reckon that death is one of the only certain things that will happen to every person in life. It has happened to billions and billions of people over the years - and many of these people have died without fear and happy. So I've always believed that if they can do it so can I.

[chow mein]

I don't think I'm afraid of dying/death. I think I'm more afraid of the fact that I might not live long enough to do whatever it is I need or want to do in life. :shrug:

[FlyingPhoenix]

I don't know why I should be afraid? Dead is nothing more as the next great adventure and I'm sure if I'm at end of a long life I might even being exited by the mere thought that there is going to be another adventure after all tis years, something new.
Not a bad thing though.

[malfoyschick]

I'm not afraid of death because I know nothing will happen to me after (well, nothing I'll know about.)

[Forever Rain]

I heard that "they" the infamous "they" that always says something.... said that

"Optomist believe we live in the the best world....and pesimist fear this..."

Along those lines I hope there is something better than this life....however I don't live just to please some "higher being" so when I die I will go and get what ever I want....how boring would that be anyway?.... I don't believe there is one true meaning of life and that we have to put our own meaning to it...not blindly accept what other people tell us is "right" or "moral" that, I believe, is for us as individuals alone to decide. I hope there is an afterlife....but I don't think it will be so black and white as to say "good people go here and bad people go there" I think when people see the world this way they really eliminate choice, opinion, individualism and "grey area" that can't be decided by anyone but you....

[Chrysalis]

No I am not afraid of death. If I were to die young, i.e. without living life to the fullest I will be very sad indeed. But if I were to die old, well, fine by me, since human beings are not immortal we must accept death as a part of our lives.

The only thing I'm afraid of is of how much grief my own death will cause my family and friends. Also I'm terrified of my family or friends dying.

[Wab]

Having almost died during and after surgery I can say death is easy.

[FlyingPhoenix]

Having almost died during and after surgery I can say death is easy.
Easier as to life anyway.

[Rowena Ravenclaw]

Of course I'm not afraid of Death. Anyone who rides a horse named Binky can't be all bad. :p

Seriously, the idea that there might be an afterlife scares me a lot more than the idea that there isn't one. If there isn't one, you just pass into a state of unconsciousness, and that's it. Not so bad. But if there is, you suddenly have to adjust to a whole new state of existence, which may or may not be a pleasant one.

And, as others have said, the process of dying is the really scary part. I just hope whenever it comes, it is in my sleep.

[HarryPottersfan]

Hi,
On the subject of and dying, I AM afraid of it. I am not ashamed to admit it. is something that affects us all. One thing we can be sure of is whatever is on the other side, the Great Spirit (GOD) will be with us. If you do not believe in a god, well, that's your business. I am not going to tell you that you're sinning or anything. is just something I'm afraid of. Thank the Great Spirit that I won't die for a long, long, long, long time from now.

[FlyingPhoenix]

On the subject of and dying, I AM afraid of it. I am not ashamed to admit it. is something that affects us all.

Its nothing to be ashamed about I would admit if I were afraid but I'm not. Simply because like Wab said you can die pretty easy and its nothing more as to faint and I did faint in my life. Everything just gos black and nicely warm and thats all. In truth there don't need to be more. The trick in my eyes with dying is that you don't know and that is exactly why I'm not afraid. Its not like something is expected from you, all what happens is that you fall. Nothing more.
But in life people expect things from you, things like working, like moving. Dying don't contain this. It does just happening and might not even hurt.

[Animagi rock!]

I guess I'm a bit afraid of dying, but I don't usually think about it too much. It's just not worth worrying about something you've got no influence over anyway. I've got more urgent things to worry about.
I'm actually more worried that I'll be really ill and in pain and that the doctors will try to keep me alive even though I'm ready to go. Something like that happend to our old neighbor. She had cancer and she was ready to die, had said all her goodbyes, etc. but the doctors wanted to push a chemotherapy on her that would have been very strenuous for her, both physically and mentally, when all she wanted to do was peacefully die at home.
I don't believe in an afterlife, so I don't think I'll even notice I'm gone, which isn't too bad as long as it's short and painless. I just hope my family won't grieve too much.

[GryffindorGr]

Not really.
I think I'd like to live forever. I know it may sound rather boring to some people, looking forward to the same routines and then it may be too sad. Sad meaning that if others around dont get to live forever then one witnesses death and life (i'm thinking "Highlander" here--the immortal series) and you go through too many grieving periods. If we were able to live forever, we'd have to expand. Go out to other universes and conquer other areas so that there'd be room. (Conquering is so aggressive, but I dont think other alien life forms would appreciate us wanting to take over without a fight)
Although I do believe in a higher spirit, or more frankly God. I think there's a purpose why we have to go through the processing of life and death. Sort of like the Krebs Cyle, you know? Or the seasonal way life expects spring to come around then winter to kill everything off, then later to start all over again.

[rotsiepots]

I'm not afraid of death. I am, however, terrified at the prospect of "dying". As Rowena Ravenclaw said, it's the process rather than the end product that causes me the most anxiety.

Then again I'm also scared of becoming old, so perhaps I'm just generally anxious?

[HarryPottersfan]

D**th to me is strange, but when it comes, I do not know if I will be scared or pleased.

[ginnygal189]

Do you people not read Harry Potter? Tut tut..

"To the well organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." - Dumbledore

hehe i was thinking that too, though in all seriousness i am not really afraid of dying, i mean everything does happen for a reason.

[Barbara Kennedy]

I don't really fear death, its pain I fear.
You might say I've already died once. My heart stopped during an operation when I was 11 and they had a little trouble getting it going again.
So, no I don't fear death.

[OrbitingElle]

I was having a discussion with my fiancee about death and he said the he is terrified of dying because he does not have any reason to believe that anything happens after we die.

All the more reason he needs to live it up! Coming to terms with being an atheist was the best thing I have ever done. Rather than being scared that I'm going to die and not go to heaven, I could just sit back and tell myself "Have fun, do all the things you want to do, and when you look back at it, make sure you don't regret everything."

It makes it hard to lose people you love, but it just reminds you to make sure you let them know how great they are, because this is your one chance.

[totalmuggle]

I guess I'm a bit afraid of dying, but I don't usually think about it too much. It's just not worth worrying about something you've got no influence over anyway. I've got more urgent things to worry about.
I'm actually more worried that I'll be really ill and in pain and that the doctors will try to keep me alive even though I'm ready to go. Something like that happend to our old neighbor. She had cancer and she was ready to die, had said all her goodbyes, etc. but the doctors wanted to push a chemotherapy on her that would have been very strenuous for her, both physically and mentally, when all she wanted to do was peacefully die at home.
I don't believe in an afterlife, so I don't think I'll even notice I'm gone, which isn't too bad as long as it's short and painless. I just hope my family won't grieve too much.
dont worry about pain dude i had a morphine infusion pump at the hosp. once you feel like your floting off the bed!

[totalmuggle]

anyone afraid of dying a painful death would not be getting a lung transplant!

[Firebolt_2007]

I'm afraid of the concept of death to some extent. Just not knowing what comes after. But not actaully the act of dying itself.

[mevam]

I'm not scared of dying, and it's not because I fit into the young adult stereotype of being reckless with my life.

I just don't see what to be so frightened of, how much worse than life could death be? With wars penetrating every barrier of the world, diseases ravaging populations, and the world steadily self-destructing, one has to wonder what there really is to worry about.

The unknown can be scary, because we will never know what there is beyond this universe until we delve into the mysteries of death. No one can tell us what it is like to die, because their death prevents them from doing the thing that could help ease the worries of many, but I see death as the next great adventure, to quote Dumbledore.

I think that a slow, painful death would would be more frightning than to simply pop off to the underworld, if one exists. The idea of a tortureous life on earth frightens more than any aspect of death, since while I don't know what to expect beyond I know what pain feels like.

[Kimmetje]

I am not directly scared of dying I just think it's scary to be dead. Will you go to hell or heaven. I don't go to church, but I don't think that means I'm not going to heaven, it's weird.

I don't want to be die, but that doesn't mean that I'm afraid to die. It could simply mean that I'm scared, but also that I am scared because I'm not afraid.

I think everybody is a bit scared of it and that everybody has at least thought about it...

[kat1689]

I'm not as much afraid of dying as I am of someone close to me dying. When I was in kindergarten one of my best friends died and I do not want to go through that again. I don't think I'm afraid of dying because at times I don't even think living is worth it. Dying is just something thats going to happen so you might as well not fear it.

[Queen of Wise]

I used to be afraid of death. But over the past year or so I've changed my thinking greatly. As Kat above me said, at times it seems as if living isn't even worth it. I am not afraid to die, but I don't want to die young, it seems like that would have no meaning at all. Whatever happens is going to happen, regardless of how careful and cautious you are.

So, right now I am just living my life to the fullest and going for my dreams, there is no use in fretting over death, as it will only make you unhappy and miserable.

[Ares'Fury]

I don't fear death. I am afraid of dying for no reason.

[KryptonKitty]

I'm not afraid of death. I don't think we should worry now about what's expecting us after we die because it's a waste of time. We will die anyway, won't we? There's nothing we can do about that. Death is a part of life, and the only thing we know for sure about it is that everyone dies. If there is a heaven or hell after death someday we will all know, and if there isn't anything well... then I guess will never know! What I really fear is pain. As long as my death isn't painful I don't care much what's waiting for me after I die.

[Aubrey]

The proof is stored in the bible, just believe

[Athina]

heh heh :scared: even thinking about it gives me the quesies... i went through a whole few summers thinking I was sick with things I wasn't and then worrying that I wouldn't wake up. Its best not to think about it because it's like a paradox. Where did we come from and where are we going? My brain can't handle that.

[stormcat_5000]

I am afraid to die before I get to prove myself in life.I have certian Dreams which I want to fullfill before I die.I just dont wanna die Knowing I could Have been someone,that I could have done something.
Other than that I dont mind Death ,it will come when it comes and I will have to face it.

P.S I am very Good with Palmistry(ie Divination) I know when I will Die.

[MalkinsCouture]

Dying is a natural part of life. A beginning and end. Then you go on to the next one, hopefully doing a better job than you did this time around.
What scares me is not dying, say if you've had a stroke or brain injury and can't take care of yourself, and become a burden to your family. That's worse than anything, in my opinion.

[funnyhoney88]

i wouldnt say i think about dying alot, but every once in a while i think about what happens. i know nobody knows what happens when we die, and questioning my faith makes me feel guilty, lol too much catholic schooling for ya. but, i believe in God, and Jesus, and i believe in a heaven and a hell, and hope i'm not going there. but i also believe that those who dont believe in God, or are a differnt religion than me will not burn in hell. to me it matters more what kind of person you are.

anyway i believe in heaven, because if i died i would not just want that to be it, nothing more, you are done. i feel like there has to be more, there have to be answers to my questions.

[mzdeep]

i'm not scared of dying. i'm just frightented about WHEN it happens. like if i died right now, i wouldn't be able to live life the way i wanted to. actually, i'm more scared of others dying.

what happens after death? whatever happens, i hope it's good fun. i mean, if there's NOTHiNG after we die, then i could care less. it's not like i'd be able to feel the nothingness. i'm up for the whole heaven and hell thing. *crosses fingers*

but right now, i'm thinking more about living than dying. 8D

[Selyr Black]

No, I'm not afraid.

I'm mortified.

Yeah.

[3SingMuggle]

I'm not as afraid to die as much as i'm afraid not to live.

[DragonBlk17]

I'm not afraid to die....I'm afraid to leave my family before I'm old enough....but I'm not afraid to die

[FloydTheBarber]

I am not afraid of dying, but I used to be afraid of it when I was like 5 years old. Now I hardly think about it.

[Bee]

I don't know if I'm scared to die. Obviously I don't want to be murdered or go gruesomely or painfully, but the actual death part... I don't know. If I died from sickness or old age I wonder if there'll be a part when I just say, I don't feel like living anymore. I don't mind leaving. I feel like I've been awake for much too long and now would just like to sleep forever. I think people dying of old age usually come to that realization. There's just nothing else to do.

I've been taught there's a sort of afterlife, and I guess I believe it, but I don't really know yet. I think right now death is just a huge mystery... the next great adventure, right?

[Mundungus Fletc]

Bee wrote
If I died from sickness or old age I wonder if there'll be a part when I just say, I don't feel like living anymore. I don't mind leaving.

I had a Great Aunt who said almost precisely that. She was in her nineties and all her friends and close family had died. She saw no reason to continue to live. As for dying it terrifies me but not death, I believe in a God so hope for an afterlife but if there is none I aint going to know anything about it.

[Mumps]

I'm not afraid of death....but I'm not sure if that's just teenage depression! :lol:
I am dying, just, very very slowly!

[complicated]

After reading where i last posted, i think people saying that they are not afraid of death maybe haven't thought closely enough.
I know i am one of those people who said "i am not afraid of death" but i now know why those people are afraid of death.

Death is so unpredictable.You don't know what is coming next to your body or situation/ event eg. the 911. You could die just like that.

Imagine if you were young like about 5 years old and you haven't even had your first kiss, didn't have the chance to fall in love, get married and have a family, didn't get a chance to finish school and be successful at the career you have chosen, you haven't even have your whole future yet and then one day you just die because something tragic has happened to you. Doesn't that scare you?

And think about those new born babies. They don't even get to say "mummy" or "daddy" or walk their first walk/run and then one day their parents are driving and BANG, a car crash and the baby dies.. Doesn't it scare you? i mean that baby could of been you and you could of have died without knowing it.

And if you think that doesn't scare you still, how about your love ones? Wouldn't you be scared if they die? and if you do scare that they die then you are afraid of Death even though you're not scared of yourself dying.

As for me, I think i'm semi scared of death now. Now that i have said all that. I could of been that baby and it makes me want more and more out of life cause i haven't live life to the fullest and i don't think i ever will. I don't mind if i just slipped away just like that when i'm asleep when i'm old because that's a life recycle; babies are born and people die. But i am scared that i will have a painful death and no one really remembers me for something i did greatly or find me when i'm dead at home. And i guess death is unfair like life is, but it is our fate, our destiny...

I would really like you to re-read this post and really think about it before you post a reply.

[Hammi]

I'm not really afraid of death but more of missing out on life. I don't want to die before I feel I've expierienced enough. But, who knows, maybe I will feel I'm ready to die before my 18th birthday. I was having a wierd discussion with some friends a few months ago about murder and I decided that if I was going to be murdered, I wouldn't really be angry about it unless it was someone I didn't know. I know that sounds wierd, but if a friend or someone I hate kills me, I would feel that they atleast have a reason to. Maybe I ****** them off. If someone I know killed me, I would atleast deserve it. I actually made a deal with one of my friends if I ever ****** her off enough to kill me, I would be her friendly ghost friend and do things for her. Wow, I must really sound like a physco don't I.

[XxIslandgirlxX]

I'm a Christian, so I'm excited to see what will happen after death. However, I'm not going to hurry the process or anything... I love life, and I want to live a nice long one before I go. But, even if I got hit by a car or something and died early, the only people I would worry about are my friends and family... I'll be somewhere peaceful, but they'll have to cope with a loss... that's what I hate.

[Llopin]

I'm afraid to die before I manage to do what I want in life, but overall I'm not much bothered by the idea. Besides, it depends on which kind of "death" are we talking about. I'm scared of dying prematurely, but I don't really care about natural death (it is supposed to come, and it will, and man can't really do anything about it).

However, I think I'm actually more frightened of the death of others. When someone dies, his/her relatives are the ones who have a hard time. When you die, you're not as affected. However, this is getting too philosophical.

[DougJohnston]

Im not afraid of death at all. Im not saying that im reckless or anything but if the world was going to blow up tommrow I wouldnt have a problem with it. I know that I will die one day and that is a LONG way away. Im not afraid of getting in a car accident or something because there is a possiblity of a crash or anything... I love doing crazy stuff and pushing my body to the limit in sports and stuff like that. Im a catholic and we do believe there is a heaven after death for those who deserve it but who knows... Anyways Im more worried about deaths of family, friends, and my pets.

[PrtVeela]

I don't know if I am afraid of dying so much as I am afraid of watching my family and friends die. I think about that a lot. And being the 'baby' of the family scares me sometimes because I think about all the people that will go before me (how optimistic of me).
I also don't want to see any more of my family members suffer or have painful deaths, that is probably something I am deeply afraid of. I think that dying in itself is not so much what I fear, it is how it happens to me my family and friends that scares me.

[Spirit]

I would like to be able to say, 'No, I am not afraid at all of dying because I have complete faith in God and Heaven.' But I can't. I do believe in God, and I do believe that I will go to Heaven because I want to do so much good in the world (and I plan to), but if I were dying right now, I would be scared anyway.

[Kangy]

I'm afraid of death, so I take risks that could kill me. Why?

Because death's only punishment is for those that did not live.

[rmjoots]

I'm not afraid of death. I am pretty sure it will be an easy transition and I know I will still be myself..I have read stories of people who die and are greeted with a former dead relative they know who act as an escort for them in a new experience.
I beleive in an afterlife and different platform of being. The only thing I am worried about death is perhaps realizing I wasted my life opporunities here for further growth in the new atmosphere. I only hope the transition will be peaceful and not traumatizing like me being murdered or burning to death, etc.

Another problem I have is the fact, that I will leave behind my body subject to other people to deal with... and the idea that my body will rot away to bones. That just discomforts me more then where my spirit will be. Maybe I am just too vain or something.

[~Tonks~]

I'm not afraid of dying, but at the same time I am...

As in, I certainly don't want to die right now... and if I was in a situation where I could die, I'd be freaked...

But on the other hand when ( :scared: ) I'm very old (assuming I live to be) I would like to think I'll look at it as just another part of life... I mean everything dies. Nothing lives forever. I want to make my life so wonderful and exciting and fantastic that when it comes time for me to die I can look back on it and feel okay with dying, you know? I would probably pass out of it sadly, but sad in a happy way, because I think it would be beautiful to die at a very old age, having lived a very amazing life, and yet another amazing thing about it would be to be able to die not feeling pained about dying, because you loved your life so much...

I guess another reason death doesn't scare me so much is because in the past eight years I've had fourteen people in my life die... My aunt, both maternal grandparents, my paternal grandmother, a great great aunt, two great aunts, a great uncle, a good friend in high school, a beloved teacher, the dental hygenist I had since I was 4, two close family friends, and most recently, my own father. So I got used to being around this sort of thing.

I think I'm really weird too. I used to do something freaky when I was little. I'd be alone in my bedroom, in bed, in the dark, and I'd get scared because I'd hear a noise or (think that) I'd see movement, and my mind would run away with me and I'd become terrified... and the only way I could get myself to fall asleep would be to think, "well, if you go to sleep, and you wake up, you'll know it was nothing, and if you don't wake up, you'll never know you died anyway, so either way it's not so bad. At least if you're asleep, you won't know you died." I look back on that and I worry about myself as a little kid...

But then again, I am a very strong person today...

[Tane]

Can we be afraid of something we really know nothing about? How can you fear the unknown, death is also something none of us can prevent in life, when your time is up I guess that is it and even if we did exist after death I doubt we would remember the life before it. Saying that though I do fear it or should I say I fear the pain from the loss of those around me who die as I do not know where death will lead them.

[ornjbreezy]

What are your thought on this? Do you need proof of an afterlife to believe? or is faith in it enough?I'm more afraid of dying before I have left significant imprints on other lives than actually dying. I wouldn't like to die now, because I have so much more potential to help other people. I don't need proof of an afterlife, as I don't believe in one. So faith wouldn't be enough for me. I see no reason to believe in an afterlife. After I have done many more things in my life, and really lived it to the fullest and used it to help others, I will be ready to die. And I will face it without fear, worry, or anything of the sort. I don't need to know what happens afterward, just having lived will be enough for me.

[DreamingRabbit]

I'm not afraid of death, never have been, never will. What i am afraid of is WHEN I'm going to die. It could be today, tomorrow, yesterday... :nc:

[free_girl]

Nope. Just don't care. Carpe diem man! :cool:

[HarryPotter]

I'm terrified of death, not for the fact of being dead... but because it is something unavoidable, there is no chance to escape, no matter how strong you refuse to accept it... you know that you are going to die one day. For sure.
If you have any religious faith, you could accept it in a way, because you feel that it is not the end... but in my case, I believe there is nothing more, and living is just a glimpse between two infinite times of nothing...

I wish I was never born.

[Shrewd]

My big worry is that when I die, I'll know about it for a long time before hand. If I have a fatal disease, I don't want to know about it until I have a month or less left to live. The longer I have to worry about something, the worse I take it. I'd rather die in a car accident than due to cancer... although in my family, there's a higher risk of the latter.
I've spent a lot of time in therapy due to depression that shows itself through a fear of death... although that's not the reason for it. But really, at the age I am now my biggest fear is living a useless life. I don't want to die having accomplished nothing. I don't want my name to be passed down through the ages, but I want to make an impact in the world. If I can do that and then die peacefully in my sleep, then my life will have been worth it.

I wish I was never born.I only wish that on really bad days, or days when the meds aren't working.
Oh, and for the first 5 minutes in the morning, on days when I've just woken up late for work but am still too groggy to function to get to the last bus in time. I hate that. :grumble:

[FreyaCrescent]

When I was younger I was afraid of dying. Afraid of what would happen, and what it would feel like - it would keep me awake at night. But now it doesn't scare me as much. It's not a particularly pleasant thing to think about, but it's something that is bound to happen eventually. Before it happens, I just want to live a happy and fruitful life. I'd like to be able look on death as "the next great adventure". I only hope that it won't be painful or drawn out - I've seen the toll that takes not only on the person, but their family too.

I'm not afraid to die myself, but I am afraid of members of my family dying, such as my parents or my brother. I know that one day it will happen, as it does to all of us, but I just hate to think of it - I can't imagine them not being here. But I suppose it's only natural to think like that.

[AS_Muggle]

I’ve been thinking a lot about my own death recently, so it’s really quite logical I pen something.

I can’t say I’m really afraid of death. I am more fearful of how much hurt I would leave behind. If there’s one thing that frightens me the most, it’s thinking that my parents might have to carry my coffin (that’s a casket to those that speak otherwise). I couldn’t stand the thought of what they would have to go through if I died.

[Shrewd]

I’ve been thinking a lot about my own death recently, so it’s really quite logical I pen something.

I can’t say I’m really afraid of death. I am more fearful of how much hurt I would leave behind. If there’s one thing that frightens me the most, it’s thinking that my parents might have to carry my coffin (that’s a casket to those that speak otherwise). I couldn’t stand the thought of what they would have to go through if I died.When I was really having trouble with depression that was the one thing that really kept me from wanting to kill myself. I live my life as much for other people as for myself, and I'd hate for all the people that I do my best to see happy to be heart-broken because I did something so horrible.
In case anyone was wondering... I haven't had that problem in over a year. :D

[Bleikli]

I've come to accept the fact that when it is time for me to leave this world, that it is for the best. So why should I be afraid?

[ComicBookWorm]

No. I had to face a serious illness and come to terms with either dying or being severely disabled. After that life was easy. I don't believe in an afterlife, so I believe that when I die, I die. So make the most of the life you are given, and don't worry about what you can't control.

[filius]

My father and his mother both have kidney failure. It's heriditery. I had to go for check ups at the hospital because I was throwing up too often and the ran me through lots of tests and while that was happening, I accepted that if I had to die, I would die. But now, i'm really fit... Even though it's supposed to be hereditery, I know I can stop it myself. I drink lots of water. But even though I don't have kidney failure of any other disease, I know i'm not afraid of death anymore although I used to be when I was younger.

[Kate Johnson]

Do you people not read Harry Potter? Tut tut..

"To the well organized mind, death is but the next great adventure." - Dumbledore
I was going to post this, but you beat me by a few months! Read the wisdom of the Great Albus Dumbledore, then go to his weekly story sessions and see what else you learn!

I used to be afraid of dying, but it's lessening. I'm afraid of being buried alive or drowned, though. *shudder* I think that when my Uncle had cancer I became less afraid of dying (thankfully he's recovered and is back at work telling Ballet dancers what steps to do) :D

[Shrewd]

My real fear, I guess, is living badly... that I won't have strong friendships, I won't help people who need it, I won't do something with my life. That's what keeps me up at night, the feeling that I'm going nowhere, rather than the fear that I'm going to die and there's nothing I can do about it.
I've always been aware of mortality, both mine and that of others. It really struck me about 15 months ago when I had to have physical therapy for my knees and was diagnosed with a rather... uh... annoying genetic disorder. The thought that if I didn't lose weight and exercise constantly I would become a diabetic with cholesterol problems who could not concieve and had both knees replaced before the age of thirty... :scared: Sadly it hasn't motivated me. But it's been bothering me lately, so maybe I will. It's just a case of needing to do whatever I can to slow it, but accepting that in both cases there's nothing I can do.

My other fear, actually, is of spending my whole life trying not to die. I don't want to live my life afraid of the end of it... I want to live as long as I can do so as a happy and healthy person. At that point, hopefully, I'll be resigned to my own death and accept it gracefully. At this point, that point in my life is far enough away that all I need to do is not think about it.

[StaRz]

We'll never know ...

[accioinsight7]

the only reason to be afraid of death is if you are ashamed of your life...the life you live results in your peace and ease of mind when it is time to die.

life is too short, there must be something coming after life...otherwise why are we mortal? why does our time come and go based off a life span.

[Esme Dogberry]

I don't think I've ever been afraid of dying. I've been overwhelmed by thoughts about the unknown, but never afraid of them. For, like Dumbledore, I see death as being the next big adventure, probably the biggest adventure I'll ever embark on. I'm becoming increasingly aware of the world's imperfections and I wonder, "Is there somethinig better waiting for me in the next life?"

[mirandam]

I have to agree with a lot that is said in the posts above. I am more afraid of not living the life I have been given to the fullest. It is something that we will all face one day or another and I don't feel that it is something that I want to weigh me down thinking about. The only way that death really scares me is when I think about it happening to my son or other young children that have not had the chance to live very much of their life.

[Avada Kedavra]

I'm not really afraid of DYING, per se, but more like where I'm going once I die. I really hope I get to the good place, but I've not been perfect, and that's what I'm really afraid of. That's another topic, though....

[MakoDraco_luvme]

I'm absolutly terrified of dying at this point in my life because I'm not ready. I know I'm going to heaven so i have nothing to fear there. Its just right now, i have so much to live for and alot i want to do. you know what? nevermind. if all i'm afraid of is that i won't get to do everything i want to do then no I'm not afraid. I would be definitly dissappointed but I know I'm well taken care of and I will be well taken care of in heaven.I've accepted christ as my savior. hes called a savior for a reason. He will save me. I haven't been perfect either but because I'm gods child, i know he will still accept me.

[busy91]

No, I'm not afraid of dying, never have been. However, I would like to hold off as long as possible in order to raise my kids. My fear (about dying) is leaving them alone.

[Aquaria]

I'm mot afraid of death itself. Even though I'm not decided yet if I should believe in a life after death. But being dead I guess I won't spend very much thought on this part. I'd either know or there won't be anything like that.

But I surely am afraid of the act of dying. I don't want to be in pain and I don't want to be lying around helpless for months or years waiting to die.
So if I die in a calm way, like falling asleep and not waking up again, without suffering, I don't mind dying and I'm not afraid.

[Master Bere]

I believe there's life after death, so I'm really not that afraid of the fact of dying, however, I do afraid if it happens at this age, because I think I have too much to live yet and what will hurt me the most would be my family, his pain... I hope I get the chance to live longer before this happens, but you never know that's why I have to be conscious of my acts and my behavior with people (I'm not talking about always been a good girl just try to do the right) Now that i think about it, what afraid is (according to my beliefs) to not go "up there" with God

[Sorcha]

I'm not scared of being dead so much as dying. I'm afraid of the pain of dying, not so much death itself. I don't want to suffer and I don't want it to last long. I'm going to be at peace for eternity after I die. :) I don't want to leave my friends and family though, I do dread that.

[Revolution]

I'm not afraid of dying. I'm not a religious person, so I don't believe that after you die you go to heaven or paradise or something. But when you die, it's the same thing as before you were born. You didn't know you existed or something. It's hard to explain, but I hope you get my point. Everybody has to go. Whether it's tomorrow or over fifty years. There's no point being afraid of it. If I had to die tomorrow, I wouldn't be afraid. Yes, I would be sad that that would be the last time that I ever saw my loved ones again, but I would be ready for it, and embrace it. The only part of dying that I'm really afraid of, is hurting the people who love me.

[Hedwiggie]

I'm not afraid of death anymore.

[DarkThunder]

Of course Im afraid of death, I feel sorry for anyone who doesnt! Those who are unafraid of death are not fit to live.

[~oSiRiS~]

I am not one bit afraid of death.
If I died tomorrow I would not care one bit.
I find what life currently has to offer very boring. Which is why I do not care if I die.

[ComicBookWorm]

Nope. When you die you die. You don't feel anything anymore so it doesn't matter. You're over--you're done. Finito.

I'm not well for a number of reasons which make life pretty tough, but I am also in horrible pain all the time. So while I'm not going to go looking for it, death would mean no more pain. Not so bad an outcome. :)

[Hedwiggie]

DarkThunder - I feel sorry for anyone who IS afraid. It's mean you ain't satisfied with your life.

[Annabelle Black]

I'm not afraid of dying per se, we all have to go sometime. I'm afraid of the manner in which I die. I hope I don't go out in a painful agonizing death. I also hope I don't die until after my children are grown up.

[Aquaria]

I'm not afraid of dying. I'm not a religious person, so I don't believe that after you die you go to heaven or paradise or something. But when you die, it's the same thing as before you were born. You didn't know you existed or something. It's hard to explain, but I hope you get my point. Everybody has to go. Whether it's tomorrow or over fifty years. There's no point being afraid of it. If I had to die tomorrow, I wouldn't be afraid. Yes, I would be sad that that would be the last time that I ever saw my loved ones again, but I would be ready for it, and embrace it. The only part of dying that I'm really afraid of, is hurting the people who love me.


I got your point and I feel the same.
I read something in an Alex Cross Novel once that wraps it up pretty good. It was something like:

"It's easy for us to come into this world, so why should it be any harder for us to leave this world?"

I liked that thought very much.

[~oSiRiS~]

DarkThunder - I feel sorry for anyone who IS afraid. It's mean you ain't satisfied with your life.
I agree with you.

I am not satisfied with my life but what I want out of life is impossible at this point in time. So there is nothing I can do about it. Hence the reason why I feel what life has to offer is boring.

[LuvHP_001]

Well....1st of all great question! i'm afraid of dying by being killed, or run over by a car, or something that happens by accident because it might not be my time to go, what if i'm only 20 at the time??? I'm not afraid of dying though like being sick or something.

[Hannibal Barca]

personally, as a Christian, I am not afraid of death. I am far more afraid of living. as brom says in Eragon (http://www.randomhouse.com/teens/eragon/) (if you don't know what that is) " Many people have died for their beliefs...The real courage is living and suffering for what you believe "

I think death will be a great release for me, and I'd much rather be where I'm going then where I am now

[Revolution]

Of course Im afraid of death, I feel sorry for anyone who doesnt! Those who are unafraid of death are not fit to live.

Why do you feel sorry for us? Just because you're not afraid of dying, doesn't mean that you're not fit to live. IMO it's silly to be afraid of death, when you most certainly cannot avoid it. You don't have to know what death is, but if you can understand it, then you'll appreciate life more(I hope you're following me). People who aren't afraid of death are most certainly fit to live. They can enjoy life more, whithout having that fear of death at the back of their mind.

[idlescribbler]

In the words of Woody Allen, "It's not that I don't want to die, I just don't want to be there when it happens."

In all honesty though, I have no fear of death. I do, however, fear wasting away, trapped within my own body. Alzheimer's runs in my family, so that fear seems more pressing than the fear of death.

[Tiberius]

I know how you feel, Idle Scribbler. I'd hate to spend my last years stuck in a hospital bed with no hope of recovery and only a slow death to look forward to. Even if I had an active mind, I think it would be torture to have to live like that. I'd prefer to meet death on my terms, not his.

[Dagmar]

My mother just died la month ago. I have to say I'm not afraid of dying, but I am afraid of going through a linguring and painful sickness that finally results in death. Being helpless, where someone else has to take care of you, and you can't even feed yourself that is scary.

[Hermywormy]

I believe in the afterlife, but I am still afraid of death, because I've never BEEN to the afterlife. I'll have no clue what happens and I won't know how to handle it. It'll be terrifing. And what if I'm wrong and all the happens is that I die and I'm just...dead. Yeah, I'm afraid of death. I know this sounds selfish or cowardly, but I am not sure if I'd save someone if it endangered myself. Unless this is someone I love with all my heart, it ain't gonna happen probably. And I'm also afraid of the pain too. Another scary part about it is leaving those I love. I'm listening to My Heart Will go on, so I'm thinking about Titanic. I love the movie, but it is so sad because of Jack's death and Rose's reaction to it. Also afraid of losing those I love to death. Sometimes I think about what it'd be like if my dad (actually my grandad.) died while I'm still a minor. He's probably one of the people I'm closest too. I'm sort of afraid of my best friend dying because she's mentioned cutting and she really shouldn't she's got a lot to live for. So, I suppose death is something I greatly fear, weather dying or someone close dying.

[Draxa]

no i`am not afraid of death its wonderfull

[Nakashalynn]

im terrified of death. i cant grasp of just ceasing to exist. when i think about it i cry. im so scared

[Kassy]

I believe in afterlife as I am Christian. I am not afraid of dying because I know that once I am dead I will be in a much better and happier place to live in. Actually I am more afraid of others dying rather than me. I would hate to go one day without my brother, Chad. He has been a better father to me than my real dad ever will be. I am afraid of him dying for his sake, and mine. What would I do without him? I don't even want to think about it. And anybody close to me--if they die, I don't know what I would do without them!

[Zimphella]

At try to look at death the way Dumbledore says in the Sorceror's Stone. Death is just the next great adventure. I'm not afraid of death or of dying. Of course I'd much rather go peacefully and not you know be murdered or die of cancer, but no i'm not afraid of dying. It has to happen sometime doesn't it? I'm not sure if i believe in Heaven, but I believe in an afterlife of sorts.

[Kassy]

That's just wrong not to believe in Heaven....but I guess people are entitled to their own opinions about everything, even that!

[Tiberius]

That's just wrong not to believe in Heaven....but I guess people are entitled to their own opinions about everything, even that!

There's a whole bunch of religious threads around here that deal with the idea of Heaven and God's existence. You might be interested in having a look.

I have no fear of death. I figure what's the point, it's not like I'm going to be alive when it happens... I just plan on making the most and best of the time I've got before it happens.

[SilverStar]

Yes I am.

[morgiana]

I'm not afraid to die. I just don't want people to go through my stuff after I'm gone. It would also be nice if it didn't hurt or wasn't scary.

I work with hospice patients and most of them have a very good outlook on death. Some are afraid but most have worked through it. It's not like there is some other option. You're born and you die it's the process of life.

As you get older your views change too.

[calvinandhobbes]

Am I afraid of dying?

Well, I depends. I am afraid of how I will die, not the actual death. I believe I am right with God, so I will go to heaven. I am however, afraid of the pain I could have before my death, such as being shot or having a heart attack.

[Fairyliquid]

Death is inevitable, we all know it. Im not afraid to die because id rather just make the most of the life i have here, see as much as i can and when i die it will be just another adventure. Whether we experience rebirth, Hell or Heaven, Nirvana or any other theories doesnt really matter. In the end we will all go through the same thing. All we can do is make the most of what we have here on Earth.

[Stayce]

I am not afraid of dying or what to expect/not expect after but I am afraid of they way I may die and what many not have been experienced first. I Definitely don't want to die before my child is grown. That is the worst thing for me.

[crookshanks1177]

No I'm not personally scared of me dying, but I do get scared of losing loved ones at times.

[i_like_dat]

I am not afraid of dying bacause I believe in afterlife. My life will go on as long as I am a real thing (couldn't think of another word for it). I am Christian, so I bleieve I will go to Heaven, and I pray every night. So no, I am not afraid. But I am VERY scared of someone close to me dying...selfish, I know....

[Tiberius]

There's a question which lends itself to discussion related to this topic. People here are generally scared or not scared of dying, to various degrees. It would be interesting to know WHY you have that fear or lack thereof. If you are not afraid, is it because of religious faith? or, like me, do you figure you won't be around to experience it, so why bother worrying? Likewise if you do fear death. is it because it is something which we have no experience for? Fear of the unknown? Or maybe you might even beleive that youa re going to go to Hell, for some reason or another (though I think this would be rather rare...).

[crookshanks1177]

There's a question which lends itself to discussion related to this topic. People here are generally scared or not scared of dying, to various degrees. It would be interesting to know WHY you have that fear or lack thereof. If you are not afraid, is it because of religious faith? or, like me, do you figure you won't be around to experience it, so why bother worrying? Likewise if you do fear death. is it because it is something which we have no experience for? Fear of the unknown? Or maybe you might even beleive that youa re going to go to Hell, for some reason or another (though I think this would be rather rare...).

Why I don't fear death? It's not something I can't stop. No matter what I do one day I will eventually die. The only thing I can do is, do my best to keep myself healthy and hope I live a long good life. At the same time if I don't have that quality of life then I don't really want to live. Not saying I'd commit suicide or anything. But when the time comes I will get a living will and a dnr and make sure that doctors cannot prolong my life by making me live off machines or needles or any of those kind of means. I am still rather young so I won't do that right away. But when I get older and my health starts going down I will make sure I have all that done. As for believing that I may go to hell, no that is not a fear of mine. When it comes to afterlife I have kind of mixed beliefs. I believe After life is a possibilty. Well it's just not something I really concern myself about. I can't prove weather there is an afterlife or not. So why worry about it? I just try to live my life now the best I can.

[DarkThunder]

Why I don't fear death? It's not something I can't stop. No matter what I do one day I will eventually die.
Gee, that doesnt help me at all. (I fear death) :P

[crookshanks1177]

Gee, that doesnt help me at all. (I fear death) :P

Lol, I'm sorry I didn't mean to sound so morbid...umm if you want maybe explain why you fear death. Is it due to religion beliefs or fear of the pain from dying such as drowning burning etc? That would be scary to me. I don't know what to say lol. Sorry.

[PGrl]

Im scared to die...i do believe that theres a heaven and a hell...but the thing is that im afraid to changes...and sometimes i dont know where im going end up...

[angel65]

no coz everyone have to go through it soon oe later =p

[Lilly Evans]

I am scared of dying, because I don't know what will happen to me when I die. I am not a believer and don't really believe in heaven and hell. I'm scared of leaving my loved ones and am terrified of seeing anybody I love die...

[azdf]

i'm more afraid of someone i love dying than dying myself

[Fairyliquid]

Im scared to die...i do believe that theres a heaven and a hell...but the thing is that im afraid to changes...and sometimes i dont know where im going end up...

I wouldnt get to wrapped up in fear of death. Would you rather stay on earth and watch all your loved ones leave while you are stuck on earth forced to live out the rest of your life? Sorry that is kinda mean but im just making a point....everthing is going to change sooner or later, im not questioning you and making you change what you fear i just like to think of death as something good and new. If there were no changes we would still be little babies and not be able to read Harry Potter!! Anyway what im trying to say is that death only has such a bad name because of the people that are left behind. They are hurt and lost when loved ones die and so say that death is something awful and make themselves believe it is bad. I just want to do as much as i can on earth and then do twice as much in death....where ever or whenever it is.

[Haleth]

I'm not really scared of dying... i guess i would rather call it a morbid facination.
i often find myselfe thinking of how it would be.. would i even know i'm dead? or would i go on with my daily life as usual fith no memory of the incident or trace of the former things that led up to thet point. like if i'm standing on a tall building, what if i fell? would i be concious as my body hit the pavement, or would i "black out", in the sence that my mind just shuts itself of, so you wouldn't feel it.. (just thoughts though, no instant wish of dying :no:)
i guess my "ideal" way to die, would have to be something quick. and pain free. i can't stand pain. the thought of dying really, really, old is not so appealing either; i've seen how many old people get on the end (bad memory, alzeimers, ect) and think it is a much worse faith than death. i'm not a very religious person, i don't believe in heaven :angel: or hell, or in the christian image of an old man on a cloud deciding each and everyone's faith (NO offence, to anyone with the belives, this is just how I feel, not a critic towards you). nor do i have strong confidence in other religions either, and i find it slightly insulting when i have people saying to me that i'll go to hell, if i don't go to church etc.

like i said, i don't belive in heaven or hell, or that "something" is going to separate some from the others and saying `sorry, but you not welkome here. please step down a floor to my colleague who'll let you into eternal torment.` as i see it, nothing we do has an impackt on what will happend after we die. our records is cleared.

Death is a thing that we'll all have to face sometimes, either by having loved ones taken away, or by leaving ourselves. i can't see the point in me fearing what i can't awoid. i don't see death as an end , beacause nothing ever ends. ok, so we leave our bodies, but our bodies is a part of a big sirkulation of the organic matterials on earth. But our "inner life" or soul, we don't know about. and i think that's what scares us. humans have always been afraid of the unknown, just for the fact that it is something we haven't experienced before("to a well organized mind, death is but the next greate adventure" - the wise Dumbledore).

i don't denie that i haven't been ancsious about the consept of death, nor that i won't ever be. but something that has been quite scary earlier was that i would no longer be feeling, or having the nice memories from my life, and maybe wors of all my personality would be lost.
one theory (and i kinda like this..sort of reassuring, at least for me, but who knows? maybe i'm just crazy :p ) is that..uhm..ok, let's say your brain equals a radio antenna. the radio antenna picks up signals in the air, shipped out from radiostations all over the world(or universe or well, everything). now if we can imagine this "collective consiousness", where we say (theoratically) all thoughts and impulses lie, just like with the radiovawes. our brain would then be the reciever of sertain thoughts or impulses transforming into thoughts in our brain.
then if you die (the antenna is.. broken, for example) it won't pick up any signals, but the signals will still be there. and so, the impulses that we see as our inner selves would "live on" due to the fact that we only shared them in this collective.. what was it i called it..:blush: consuosness.
this theory would then be saying that "you" will always be there, in the way you were, only in a state were you (the impulses ) weren't collected.
*rubs her head.. too big thoughts!*

i read in one (or more) of the posts before me, people who said that those who's not afraid of dying, does not enjoy life, or deserve it. and to be completely honest that irritated me a bit. i'm not criticising anyiones oppinion, but i feel that is a bad, even a bit mean thing to say. even if i'm not afaraid of dying, dosen't mean i'm not living life like i should. i enjoy life. but i don't see death as a complete end to it. please, i respect your oppinion, but i just felt like i had to say this.

(sorry 'bout the long boring post)

[Tane]

Why would anyone be afraid of dying, it happens quickly and you probably feel nothing and then it is peaceful. Dying to me means nothing, when you die you no longer exist that is final really, no worrying about bills, no concerns about whether you can afford the mortgage or if your pension will last you, no more feeling cold and aching form the arthritis, no more senile dementia to concern yourself with. Just a long sleep I guess.

[Tiberius]

The ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus said, “Why should I fear death? If I am, death is not. If death is, I am not. Why should I fear that which can only exist when I do not?”

And Mark Twain wrote, “I was dead for millions of years before I was born and it never inconvenienced me a bit.”

[Kobila]

Honestly?
The thought terrifys me to the point of obession. I think I spend at least a half an hour every day dreading someone I care about or my dying. At night when I have trouble falling asleep is the worst for me I think about what would happen if heaven were true and Im destined to spend an eternity in the same place, think about it forever is forever. The endlessness of it frightens me beyond belief.
It makes me feel small and insignificant, something no body likes to feel. I remember the first time I read Anne Rices vampire books the idea of living forever was the most beautiful thing I had ever heard at that time, and I am still trying to figure out how it might be done :nc:

[tonks181]

I guess when I'm too depressed with life to hope for a way out of problems, I even wilfully invite death. When I'm happy, though, I never think about Death. Whether I would be scared if I do sometime, remains to be seen, I dunno.

[michelle3654]

Yeah, because I don't know what to expect.

[crookshanks1177]

Honestly?
The thought terrifys me to the point of obession. I think I spend at least a half an hour every day dreading someone I care about or my dying. At night when I have trouble falling asleep is the worst for me I think about what would happen if heaven were true and Im destined to spend an eternity in the same place, think about it forever is forever. The endlessness of it frightens me beyond belief.
It makes me feel small and insignificant, something no body likes to feel. I remember the first time I read Anne Rices vampire books the idea of living forever was the most beautiful thing I had ever heard at that time, and I am still trying to figure out how it might be done :nc:

I love the Vampire Chronicles! I hope you can overcome your fear or become comfortable with it. My fear was never of me dying personally. I would rather die then suffer losing the ones I love the most. Especially lately with the issues going on over in Iraq. I am from a military family. I know many people over in Iraq; family, friends, my boyfriend. I dread the day I see on tv or read in the newspaper that someone I know was killed. I actually refuse to watch the news or read the newspaper very often for that simple reason. I remember my grandmother sitting by the tv every day during the first Gulf war watching the news. I refuse to be like that. I miss and worry about the people I know in Iraq, but I refuse to live like that, I know they wouldn't want me to live like that also. Also for a long time I had a major fear of losing my father. I never got to know my grandfather, he died of a heart attack when my father was 12. When I was a kid I was scared to death my dad was going to die when I was that young. I was scared to the point of having nightmares. I used to sleep walk because of it. My parents were divorced and we were living in Okinawa when I was that age. I would sleep walk into my mom's room and demand to call my dad just to hear his voice and know he was ok. I caused her a huge phone bill so I could get a good nights rest lol. I still have that fear. I dread the day I lose my father. I know most parents would say they want their children to out live them. But I can't help but hoping I die before my father does. It may be selfish but I don't want to suffer losing him.

[Buckbeak2004]

I am not afraid of death. There's no reason for me to be. There is no proof that there isn't an afterlife, so why should I be afraid of it. I dont want to die, I'm just not terrified of it. Until somebody actually proves to me that there's no life after death I'm refusing to fear dying in the remotest way. There is no reason to worry anyway, everything that happens, happens for a reason. I'm not meaning to sound horrible, but tomorrow I could be run over by a bus and pass on, or in 50 years time I could fall down the stairs and die. When it happens to you it happens and you shouldn't spend all your life worrying and being terrified of it because that's just wasting your life when you could be spending your time more wisely instead.

[Wep]

I'm not afraid of dying, I am more afraid of people close to me dying (i.e. family). So I guess that is more a fear of being alone, or fear of not being able to cope alone.

[Taleeya]

For the most part.... I'm not afraid of being dead, its the dying part I don't really like. I mean, most ways are pretty painful.... car accident, fire, poisoning.... etc. :sad:

Although I do have one fear... its based on a Tales from the Crypt episode. This guy dies but he is still concious and feels things. Like he can hear what people are saying to him after he's dead and stuff. UGH the thought totally creeps me out!

[Classical_Wizar]

I can just see some people sending me owls but so be it.

Am I afarid of dying? Yes and no I always had this gut feeling that I was going to die young for some reason that scared me. I ran away from my faith as I child for a long time and I couldn't even sleep at night. Hence the insomia for me.(Yeah I know where it came from talking to someone who thought about being a pysh major so I read Freud I read my Jung, among others.) I always wanted to be a writer and feared that I would never reach that goal that I was going to die young and never acheive my dreams I thought that before my X birthday (No not going to tell you) that I would never see it. Now these days I am not so sure. You take chances. Will the sun rise tomorrow? Anwser: Yes, Question:why? Answer:? Because it always has. Question but would it rise tomorrow? Answer:? (Yeah I'm a philospyhy major too) I don't know I have dreams we all do but right now I can say I don't fear it anymore I fear for what might happen to those that I loved,I fear for the people I care for but as for myself this very second I have face my demons. And at this very second I can say no I have dreams and wonder if they would ever come true but so many before me had them to and those dreams never came true for them and I ask why? I say what may come, comes but tomorrow I might have another answer for you. At this moment I can honestly say no bring it on. If my dreams come true then they come true if not then so be I know that I am with God and that I would one day be untited with the one I love. ( Did I scare you? I sometime scare myself.)

Edit: As for me I am taking one day at a time. What comes, comes I have no more fears and can look at the world in the eye and laugh. (Yeah I said I scare myself sometimes)

[crookshanks1177]

Classical_Wizer you just made me think of a conversation I had with my grandmother and dad when I was like 11. I don't know why. But your post made me think of it. I will always remember it. We were sitting in the living room in my grandmother's house. She made a comment saying something along the lines of "A parent never wants to out live their children." That comment makes perfect sense. I'm not a parent, but one day of course I want to be. And I surely would not want to see one of my children die. But when she said that it really depressed me. I'm really close with my father. It may sound selfish, but I've always wished that my father will outlive me. I am terrified of the day that he dies. I cannot imagine not having him in my life. I have always had the fear of losing him. My grandfather died when my dad was 12. I remember when I was 12 I freaked out cause I thought since his father died when he was 12, he was going to die when I was 12. My parents are divorced so at the time my mother had custody of me. I was suffering so bad from this fear that I would sleep walk into my mother's room crying hysterically begging to call my dad. She could never calm me down until she called my dad and I heard his voice and knew he was ok. After I got to hear his voice I would go lay back down in bed. Of course I don't remember the sleep walking. My step brothers told me about it. That summer when I went to go visit my dad I started to suffer from insomnia. I would lay in bed awake all night and occasionally get up and walk into my dad's room to hear him breathing to make sure he was still alive. One night my dad heard me walk in and he asked me what I was doing. I broke down in tears and explained to him my fear. Well my dad has a talent with words when it comes to me. He always knows the right thing to say. So eventually my fear calmed, but I was still afraid to lose him, but I didn't have the initial fear that he was going to die when I was 12 because his father died when he was 12 if you know what I mean. But the fear still does bother me to this day. My dad tried talking to me about his will one time, and I broke down in tears.

[Adritha]

I am not afraid of dying now, but I used to be. That was, of course, before I started to listen to real music and reading real books. I gave up religion long ago, before any of my friends did, simply because I don't bow to anybody, not God, not death, not pain. Fear is a pointless and blurring feeling that we are better off without. I am a Slytherin and a future Death Eater, after all... although not as much of a coward as most of my housemates.

[Virtuousdream]

To me it's not the thought of death with me, it's the fear of my loved ones and friends dying. For me Religion offers no comfort, I don't believe in it. I just can't logically accept it. So final parting of the people who I couldn't live without scares me. I hate time because everything that has a beginning, has an end. I know that's Matrix, but it's the point Revolutions illustrates.

I used to be afraid of dying myself, but I can be a loner, and I think it's the best way, because you are alone, you think alone, you'll die alone. You'll leave loved ones, or they'll die and leave you.

When I posted in this thread a year ago I said I was afraid of dying alone. I guess I am, but not so much. You just have to accept it.

[bozzman400]

Im not afraid of dying. I reached that decision quite some time ago. I do fear, as Virtuousdream said, loosing my loved ones. I do beleive in life after death, so although i know im going to be reunited with them in due time, i also realise that, some of them, maybe even me, might not go the the place we wanted. lol.

Either way, my advise to those of you who fear death is this: Live life to the fullest. </cliche>

This bit of advise also aplies to those who dont fear death. You only live once after all. (unless you beleive in reincarnation. lol)

However, if your a Catholic, like myself, they you should indeed live life to the fullest, but be responsible with the choices you make, as they may affect what happens to you in the end.

[Tane]

Well living alone is fine but I am afraid of dying on my own alone and why was my last post deleted how odd.

[starxgazer]

I am not afraid of dying, the thing is that, you never know what comes after death, will it be like a dream? Or will there be eternal nothing. Will you feel anything or will you fell nothing? Will you be able to feel if your dead or not? Will you know? Those are the questions that I have often been afraid of. Once your dead will you come back as another person, is it possible?

[Arwen42]

I'm not excatly sure wheather I'm afraid of dying or not. I know that eventually, everyone is going to die. The thing is, that I do not know how am I going to die. Or when. Will I be in terrible pain or not? Will I realize my dreams?

I think that I'm not that much afraid of dying. I'm afraid of dying without realizing my dreams...

[Ava]

I'm not really afraid of death, I'm more afraid of the having to face the fact that I haven't lived well during my time spent on earth. Or the shock/grief that it would bring my family if it's a sudden and unexpected death. And I admit that pain really scares me. But like all things, this too shall pass and life would continue even without me, so for me that's an encouraging thought. Plus, I believe in the afterlife so there are always things to look forward to. :)

[ginnybatbogeysyou]

Yes, I am. Not of dying as such, but missing out on so many things I haven't done yet. That might change as I get older though.

[Taichi]

I don't believe in an afterlife, but I do believe that death is the single greatest feeling you will ever experience, as you only experience it once......

it must be the best feeling ever......

[potionsnerd]

I have a very strong and clear belief about what will happen after I die. Am I afraid? Nope. Do I want to? Not really.

Though I do wonder what it must feel like... Is that too weird? :huh:

[cornish_pixies]

I'm not afraid of my own death; more the death of others who I love. I do wonder what will happen during the actual process though. But I believe in reincarnation.

[Adiah]

I am terrified of death, but not because of dying itself or what comes afterward. I just don't want to die because there are a lot of things I want to finish first.