M-13 - Fraternal Issues

[AllanTheGreat]

"Love your brother and take care of him as he takes care of you, he's the only brother you've got, you know?" This is a phrase that I hear at least once a month.

My brother is 11 years older than me. As you can conclude, we don't have much in common. We are always fighting. Whether we're fighting over our parents favoritism, or over the TV.

I believe that I'm just another person in the world to my brother because I've seen other families with brothers and sisters who treat themselves lovingly and care for each other. My brother just doesn't get the idea of being brothers.

Do you have this kind of problems with your brothers and sisters too? And if so, what do you think about this?

[Silk E Smooth]

My brothers are more like strangers. Just because we are tied together by blood doesn't mean we have to be close. In my case, all 3 of my older brothers have turned out to be really nasty people. I don't really care to have anything to do with them. Just a few days ago I was explaining to a friend of mine while discussing weddings that I would never been able to have the wedding I wanted because my brothers would have to be invited. No one seems to understand my distain for them but I would rather go to Vegas to get married rather than having all my family and friends there. And my parents are trying to get out of holidays just because we don't like having them come around and a holiday is a sure bet they'll show up. We're thinking of taking an annual cruise every christmas. But the up side of my situation, I'm my parents favorite.

[hermy_weasley2]

My brother is 11 years older than me. As you can conclude, we don't have much in common.

My brothers are fifteen and seventeen years older than me. They've got their own children now, but they always been like a second set of parents to me. My dad makes me so angry sometimes, because he acts like a spoiled kid sometimes who's paranoid that everyone is out to lie to him or disrespect him. He's very impacient too. I love my dad though, and he can be a really good dad most of the time. My brothers live close by, and they know what our dad is like, so when I get mad him, they let me hang out at their houses until I cool down a little. They're pretty much accustomed to coming in after work and finding me sitting on their couches watching T.V. or doing my homework. I have a keys to their houses. And if get tired of being with them, I can always leave and go home or to the other one's house. I don't know if have a lot in common with them,but they both taught me to do a lot of things like ride my back and go fishing, and they're the people that started my love of sports. My neices and nephews, especially the the two older ones who are my youngest brother's kids, see me as more of an older sister than an aunt. Because of our age difference, our relationship isn't normal, but it's not bad. I know a lot of people who are very close in age and aren't as close to their siblings as I am.

[AllanTheGreat]

I would love to have a brother like that. Its obvious that there are millions of people who do have good relationships with their siblings, and you're one of those hermy_weasley2.

My brother doesn't have any children yet and he isn't married. But when he marries and has his own house I wouldn't even dream of going to his house when I want, especially when his girlfriend is not a very friendly person.

Do others also have problems with their siblings? This is the place to get it all out. :)

[Chrysalis]

Hi there. My sister and I have always been at odds ever since I can remember. She's 4 years younger. I can't be like other sisters because I need more personal space than others, and my parents just don't get that. Of course I've been really mean to her sometimes and I really regret that. But she can be a right little brat sometimes too, I let myself be bullied too much by her.:) All of this probably sounds really petty to you guys. hermy weasley, I wish I had brothers like that. I've always wanted an older brother.

[brisa]

Well...I don't have any brother nor sister....and you should consider yourselves so lucky for having one....I think :huh:

[AllanTheGreat]

I've always wanted an older brother.
I have an older brother, and its often not that good to have one. In the case of hermy weasley, her brothers are her comfort, but for me, my brother is like a hazard, he is always bothering me and teasing me and it's just really annoying.

I wish I had another older brother, but not that old, like 1 or 2 years older, for us to have more things in common, but I guess all hope is lost now.

Keep your fraternal experiences coming guys :).

[Zachary1993]

"Love your brother and take care of him as he takes care of you, he's the only brother you've got, you know?" This is a phrase that I hear at least once a month.

My brother is 11 years older than me. As you can conclude, we don't have much in common. We are always fighting. Whether we're fighting over our parents favoritism, or over the TV.

I believe that I'm just another person in the world to my brother because I've seen other families with brothers and sisters who treat themselves lovingly and care for each other. My brother just doesn't get the idea of being brothers.

Do you have this kind of problems with your brothers and sisters too? And if so, what do you think about this?How can you be faternal twins if your brother is older than you. Or were you born on the same day just a different year. Anyways I hardly fight with my oldest brother because he is nine years older than me. But with my brother that is five years older we fight a lot we were not born on the same day but we fight a lot just like you and your brother. Then I have a five year old brother who has down syndrone because his birth mother drank beer when she was pregant and she also grabbed him and shook him he was adopted so was my 15 yearr old brother. My five year old brother and I never fight because I am supposed to be a big brother and take care of him. Plus he looks and acts like a three year old becaue of the down syndrome. He is not in kindergarden yet. He will not start until he is seven or eight because he is behind normal five year olds. It will not matter because he is also smaller than normal five year olds and no one will notice. He was supposed to start this year.

[hermy_weasley2]

How can you be faternal twins if your brother is older than you.

Fratenal refers to siblings, not always fraternal twins.

[Bee]

I have a brother five years younger than me and a 3/4 of the time we spend together, we're fighting or "at odds". Sometimes (for about the max time of 30 minutes) we can get along great and be best buds. But not for much longer than that. He drives me insane, I can't wait until I leave for university... !

[ginnybatbogeysyou]

My brother is 2,5 years younger than me and we really get along well. We have the usual brother-sister fights from time to time, but most of the time we're really nice to each other.
I can also have very much fun with my brother. Maybe it's because we share the same interests, like hockey, cars(yes, I admit: I'm a car-loving girl) and movies.

[dumbleedore]

My sister is 6 years older than me. When we were growing up, we hated each other.

However, when I was 12, she left home to move in with her boyfriend. In another town. So, until the end of last year, I saw her very rarely. And it did us wonders. Now that we're both 'grown ups', we get on so well. She is one of my best friends.

[Tane]

I have no problems with my younger sisters at all. We seem to enjoy different things in life anyway so we tend not to tread on anyone’s toes.

I used to get my two sisters out of the house a lot by taking them to the cinema and where talking a long time ago when I was 18 and could afford it. I don't really argue with my sisters at all, not that we have never had our difference because we have but there tends to be a separation period between us and it’s normally to cool off in our bedrooms. My sisters and I choose that method to get out of trouble and its called avoidance until one of use can open up the conversation about something completely different. It normally works within less than an hour where talking again with no problems.

No I love my sisters way too much to have major disagreements with them. Our differences make life that little more interesting.

[Justop26]

Well.. I must say that I really love my sister... She's 10 years younger than I am, but I'm sure she doesn't have any issue with me.. We spend a lot of time together and really love each other... I must say I'm lucky! I don't have any other siblings, though.

I guess that you just only need to find something in common with your Brother and relate with him.. How about cars?

[AllanTheGreat]

I guess that you just only need to find something in common with your brother and relate with him.. How about cars?
That's impossible, and I hate when people suggest that, I just dont know why.

My brother and I can't possibly relate because I don't like any of the things he likes and he doesn't like any of the things I like. I tell my parents they're lucky because they got both sides of the personality scale. I'm the intellectual one, books, history, information, Discovery Channel; he is the practical one, cars, jack of all trades, electricity, mechanics, ESPN.

We're just sooooo different. The only thing we usually relate to is when we watch old episodes of Bugs Bunny and Tom & Jerry, and that rarely happens. But when it does, we have half an hour of fun time and then we fight again because I want to read and he wants to listen to loud, disgusting music. :td: